"Excuse Me Son, You Just Got Knocked the F Out!"

A little gossip never hurts, right?  Well, maybe in some cases.  It was recently brought to my attention that a well-known club promoter and self-proclaimed "mogul" here in Grand Rapids was assaulted last Thursday in the back room of the well-known bar The French Quarter (formerly, River City Slims.)

Rumor has it that the promoter owed one of his bouncers money for work he had done for him.  The bouncer came up to The French Quarter after "Thirsty Thursday" (Yes, it is really called that) demanding payment.  The promoter and bouncer stepped in the back room to discuss this matter and moments later, a witness claims, all that was heard was a loud "Boom!"  The witness stated that when they went to the room to see what happened the promoter was laid out on the floor, knocked out cold, dreads scattered about.  It get's worse, the same bouncer who allegedly committed this assault showed up just days later expecting to work.  Only in Grand Rapids!

Some people may say that the promoter got what was coming to him as this is not the first shady business deal that he is said to have made.  Although, these bad deals have never been confirmed, one might wonder if they aren't the reason the attendance at his recent events has been so low (even on nights when drinks are $3 and ladies are free) compared to the past when hundreds of people would come out to party.  You might even say it was...KARMA? (No pun intended)

Subconciously F**ked by Todo or Nothing

So, I've come to realize that SEX has been the cause of many problems in society and I'm gonna blame most of it on the glorification of sex in the media. Sex is everywhere and we are constantly reminded of it, seemly training to think about it at all times. From R. Kelly to Trey Songs, from Trina to Nicki, to commercials about deodorant and gum; we are being bombarded with images of sweaty hetero "couples" getting it on with perfect bodies and lighting. It takes over our soul and then we act irrational based on these thoughts and feelings of lust that we've been brainwashed with. This then leads to irresponsible relationships where both (or more) parties have nothing to connect on but their private parts.

Now, I'm not a man so I can't speak for them but in my opinion, women were never meant to just give it up to a man for no real gain but sexual pleasure. I have yet to see it pan out in a majorly positive way for them (excluding Jenna Jameson). They either end up heartbroken, pregnant or completely disrespected, but in many cases all three. Brokenhearted because sex releases emotions that otherwise would never see the light of day (or night), pregnant because sex really does feel better without a condom (it’s a law of physics) and disrespected because...well, I'm still a big confused about this one but I think it's because people are far too judgmental of others and then act upon those observations. I think that girls (because women SHOULD know) that all these things are very real dangers, most being the respect issue because positive things can come out of being heartbroken (you sure do learn a lot down there) and/or pregnant. But when you put yourself in a position to be disrespected it's pretty clear that you already have a lack of respect for yourself and it just keeps deteriorating with every "emotionless" sexual act you give out. This then makes it “ok” for guys to say and do whatever they want when it comes to you because, “Hey, she doesn’t respect herself so why should I.”

Bottom-line, I know it's wrong to judge other for any reason and I rarely do, but if you know that promiscuity can and will lead to such horrible things such as loss of self-respect (not to mention stds) why do it?! Why? Because we're programmed to be horny reckless brutes who live by carpe diem and don't think until after we nut...We're fucked...so to speak.

*This post brought to you by Todo or Nothing

Cheatin' Ass

I would like to state for the record that being someone's Baby Mama/Daddy does not mean you can sleep with them no matter what the circumstances.  Just because "everybody does it" does not mean it's right.  If you are in a relationship with someone other than your BD/BM and you sleep with them, that is still considered CHEATING.  I'm speaking as somebody who has been on both sides. 

Too many people (mainly men) use the excuse that "He/she is my BD/BM" to make themselves feel less guilty about cheating, but the REALITY OF THE SITUATION is that if you go outside of your relationship with anybody YOU ARE A CHEATER. 

GRBD

FUCKING PITIFUL picture I found that reminded me a lot of the younger generation right here in the Rule..

Maybe this is just a Grand Rapids thing, but how many of you know that one guy who just impregnates females so he can have a permanent F buddy?  "Well, if she look good, I'm seedin' her" Yes, this is an actual quote from an actual person living amongst us in the wonderful city of GR.  What's even worse is that this trend is becoming more and more acceptable by society, and it makes me sick to my stomach.  I mean, were is the line drawn?  What happened to genuine relationships?

Typical scenario:

Girl meets Guy (who already has 1-3 children by different women that she may or may not know of), falls in "love."  She thinks to herself, "this is gonna work somehow," gets pregnant and has child. They take a "break" (if they were ever even together in the first place.) Guy finds new baby mama within months. 

Sadly, this is very common in the minority community of GR.  If I take a look at all my Facebook friends from high school who have had kids almost all of the Caucasian couples have gotten married and very few of the Black or Latino couples are even still together. Why is this?  Seriously, why does this happen?

If you google the definition of baby mama or baby daddy this is what you will find:

Noun

baby mama (plural baby mamas)

1. (US, slang) The mother of one's child when the woman is not currently (and likely was never) the man's primary or exclusive partner.

Noun 

baby daddy (plural baby daddies)

1. (slang) The father of one's child who did not marry the mother and typically provides little or no support for the mother and child.

So...accurate? or totally off?

So...You Wanna Be A Rapper?

Being the girlfriend and/or baby's mother of an aspiring rapper is very challenging.  As his girlfriend, you are expected to support him in his decisions and on his path to his dream.  But can a woman really support the idea of their man going on long tours with other rappers (who may or may not have girlfriends/wives back home) where they are constantly bombarded by groupies? 

 Yes, the perks of being with a successful entertainer are very appealing, especially from a financial stand point.  But, is your pride worth it? Or really, your self-worth and respect?  And without self-respect doesn't that put you in the same category as the groupie?

Of course, he is going to say and quite possibly even believe that "this is different" or "I'm not focused on those hoes, I'm focused on my money" but men are human, and humans are weak.  Imagine him being away from you and your family for weeks, maybe months, lonely and surrounded by beautiful whores with daddy issues who are willing to do anything just to feel a rush, that rush being your man.

Ghetto Tale by Anonymous

I haven't done this in a while so the shit might sound crazy.

In the past year I've turned into a different lady.

Met this dude named ____, fell in love and had his baby.

Knew it was too good to be true when I found out how he played me.

He said she was his cousin and kept that lie up for a year.

One day I logged on FB and  found out what I had to hear.

The B*tch wasn't his fam, but she was something very near.

She had it posted on her page for me to see it very clear.

The chick had his baby too, I wasn't the only one.

To make matters worse, she had his second son.

Good thing I was pregnant, God knows what I would have done.

But according to him, he only f__ed the girl for fun.

F* Love, I'm Tired of Trying

You can't love someone without first loving yourself, right? So what do you call it when you love somebody else so much that you stop loving yourself?  Was it ever love to begin with? Probably not. There are no fairytale romances, and if you thought there were then you're probably only seeing what that certain "perfect" couple wants you to see (trust me, I've done it). The "love" your grandparents experienced is extinct. Love is not something that is just handed to you one day out of the blue, although we all like to believe it is. Real love takes work and these days people are just not hard workers. But hey with a subject like love, don't hold me to this entry, my opinion might change tomorrow. :-/

16 and Pregnant/Teen Mom

I don't even know where to start with this one.  I mean on one hand it's good that these teen moms are being given a way to provide for their children, but are teenagers looking at these programs and thinking, "I don't want to end up like them" or "Well, if I get pregnant at least I can try out for next season..."

If you go to the casting page for 16 and Pregnant it reads:

 From morning sickness to mood swings, and to even the day of the baby's arrival, we would like you to let us document this exciting, life changing event.

I will be the first to admit that having a baby can be very exciting and without a doubt life changing, but is this the message that should be sent to TEENAGE girls?  This reality show is not realistic at all.  Realistically, the odds of a pregnant teen going on to become semi-famous by starring in not one, but two reality shows on MTV, and pose for magazine covers is slim to none.  I can't blame the girls on the show, at least not the first season.  I mean they have to do what they have to do to provide for their babies even if it does mean capitalizing on their poor judgment. 

We have all seen those episodes of Maury where the 15-year old girl is desperate to have a baby.  Are these two programs not adding to that problem?  "Not only am I gonna have a baby at 15, I am gonna become famous for it!", this is a thought that you can bet your ass on more than one girl out there in the world is thinking right now.  You have to wonder what is going through the minds of the casting directors when they are interviewing girls for upcoming seasons. 

"Hey, Young Slut..."

God be with me in my actions and words today.
Last night was a prime example of "crazy baby mama" and I so do not want to be that one. I almost beat the breaks off this fast ass little girl last night. You see, I know all the games that these young chicks play nowadays. Funny how you come up to the barber shop in the middle of the night to hang out with all these guys, one in particular, or so it seems. But for some reason you are following about 5 steps behind my BD's every move. You walk just far enough behind him so the other guy doesn't notice and you probably thought you were fooling me too since I KNOW you know exactly who I am. Little do you know, you almost got your ponytail snatched the F out your bald head. Anywho, her little slut feelings were crushed when I made certain that his attention was 100% focused on ME, in true Scorpio fashion. Ha, you thought u stood a chance?